| The Personality of a person is the inner, innate potential of his spirit, the fragrance of which spreads all over like a bloomed flower. |
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| The lion stands as a king of the jungle naturally and spontaneously, without any elections, which is governed to him by nature. |
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| Similarly you have to seat on throne specially made for you by the "Almighty Lord" and rule the kingdom as a king. Life is to weave the beautiful fabric of character and personality. You have to blossom yourself and enjoy the blooming of flowers, fragrance & sweetness of fruits of your life. Your personality must be very attractive and impressive, no matter whatever your position may be in this material world. Although all human beings have most of the physical and mental resources and posses powers of various sorts, very few are master in using these resources and powers they have to develop their personality. |
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| To develop your personality, you must establish faith and confidence in your own self. " The Ideal of Faith in yourself and the "Almighty Lord" is of greatest help to you. If faith on the self and on the "Almighty Lord" is learnt and practiced, then its for sure that a very large portion of all the miseries and problems that you have or the world has would vanish. Throughout the history of mankind, if any motive power that has been more potent in the lives of all great men and women; it is that of faith in themselves and faith in the Lord born with the consciousness that they were to be great and they became great. |
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| "He who is full of faith and virtue (Moral Goodness) possessed of repute and wealth, in whatever land he travels is everywhere respected" ; spoke the Buddha |
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| Personality of a person is multidimensional and one must be a multitasker to develop it beyond your Body and mind. |
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| Attraction is the most important aspect or factor in this world. Personality is the one which attracts the most. That is why most of the persons irrespective of their age and physical outlook have outstanding personality and attract people. This inner innate power of Attraction has to be developed and maintained. This attraction brings you friendship with the people without any barriers whatsoever. You develop friendship with beautiful people and establish mutual bonding. It is a bonding of mutual love and attraction, giving joy to everyone. |
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| In the process of development of your personality, you have to always be like a humble student craving to learn, learn from each person you meet, everyone has something to give. A powerful will once made is enough for the sure attainment of the real. You have to seek for a person inside you; i.e. your real Goal. |
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| You must have an Ideal of a person you desire to be & fix your life's goals, and must ever remain restlessly impatient, striving for attainment of the goal. To be successful you have to be very practical and professional then only you can achieve goals. You should not be blocked in the confusions of your mind, you should take full control over your mind and use your intellect by keeping your attention on you Ideal and Goals you have fixed. |
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| You have to continuously introspect your improvements in personality development. To improve is to change, to be perfect is to change often. " You must change your old uncreative habits and ways. You must work out new fresh better ideas; and must aim towards perfection always there are ways to improve yourself. " Where the is a will there is a way " |
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| Once you make up a powerful will, you have to work hard with high esteem; project your vision high. If you want to reach the top of a tree then aim at the sky. Put your maximum possible efforts in building yourself. Personality of a person is the integration of his physical health and looks, appearance, behavior, and his innate qualities, essence, powers, energies and potentiality etc. at his gross, subtle, causal and super casual level. |
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| The ANBLS helps you to develop your personality at all levels and gives fulfillment of your life. |
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| Many of great rich moments in your life come from your inner hidden potentialities and capabilities. You have immense capabilities and potentialities which most people are unknown of. Many of you spent time going nowhere, and lead a frustrated life full of illusions. This happens because you have not tried to explore yourself, your innate energies and potencies. Most of you fail to cope up with problems created by our environment. Our self-concept that of ego of " I " ness and " Me " associated with whatever you do has tremendous influence on the way you think and act as a whole. Our overall self-concept in fact tends to be an organized cluster of many selves. It helps to explain why we do not always act consistently. It is a common practice to identity our body images (how we perceive and feel about our body) Our self-image the self we see ourselves to be) our ideal self (the self we had like to be) and our social self (the way we feel others see us). Our tendency to see and act in consistent manner is also strengthened by our self-esteem the present evaluation of ourselves and the resulting feelings of worth associated with our self-concept. Self-awareness and mental training can help us to achieve miracles in our lives. We can thus overcome our mental block and self doubts and tap our inner reservoir of energy to control our actions and environment without deliberate effort. |
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| The amazing impact of this over our destiny can hardly be over emphasized. Latest psychological research shows that an individuals emotional quotient (EQ) contributes much more vibrantly to ones productivity and success in life than even the much researched intelligence quotient Daniel Goleman, on Emotional Intelligence, states " What factors are at play when people of high IQ flounder and those of modest IQ do surprisingly well ? I would argue that the difference quite often lies in the abilities called emotional intelligence, which include self control, Zeal and persistence, and the ability to motivate oneself. These skills can be taught to children giving them a better chance to use whatever intellectual potential the genetic lottery may have given them." |
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| " These are the times", he further maintains, "when the fabric of society seems to unravel at even greater speed when selfishness, violence, and a meanness of spirit seem to be rotting the goodness of our communal lives. This is growing evidence that fundamental ethical stances in life steam from underlying emotional capacities. For one impulse is the medium of emotion; the seed of all impulse is a feeling bursting to express itself in action. Those who are at the mercy of impulse - who lack self control - suffer a moral deficiency. The ability to control impulse is the base of will and character. By the same token the root of altruism lies in empathy; the ability to read emotions in others. If there are any two moral stances that our times call for, they are precisely these, self - restraint and compassion. |
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| Unravel your emotional tendencies and move easily through the maze of your own mental world. Prepare and practice your response to physical and psychological problems in the world of varying possibilities; so that if they do occur, you can respond to them completely and confidently. Understanding, the interplay of brain structures that rule out moments of rage and fear or passion and joy - reveals much about how we have learn the emotional habits. The incredible power of your self image has an amazing impact on your destiny you must enable yourself to drift into a voyage of self discovery and improvement which is the dire need of the hour. Since the present scenario of heightened technological and social changes has intensified that challenge of self-direction more than ever before. Also the need to learn more about ourselves and our world as a means of directing our lives more efficiently is especially true in a democratic society like ours, where we enjoy greater personal freedom and take greater pride in personal achievements than people in more traditional societies. Precisely for this very reason, we tend to be more vulnerable to psychological insecurity, confusion and loneliness etc. Therefore explore and unfold your mental mysteries to make your life happy and joyous. |
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| Each one of us is born with uniqueness an exclusive self which gives you your identify, the essence of our survival, the one that often says in so many in so many ways, " Me me I want, I need affection, affirmation, approval, power, recognition, security, achievements etc. We each have a dominant set of motivations and needs that shape our personality and behaviour, based on what matters most to us, and what seems to be the best way to achieve that gratification of our inner desires. |
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| Everyone wants to be achiever, whose theme song is " Climb every mountain" An internally motivated person with high self set standards of excellence and goals are strongly driven by achievements. |
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| Psychologists agree that IQ contributes less percentage than emotional intelligence of the factors that determine success. Excellent emotional intelligence, donating vibrant qualities of self awareness, mood management, self motivation and impulse control and sensitivity for people balanced emotional stability, you have to blow away your blues. Many people go through a case of severe depression, insomnia, lack of concentration and fatigue to emotional paralysis and some even have suicidal thoughts which are the symptoms of depression. |
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| Whenever you feel depressed about anything; try to change your moods by doing something constructive, like an exercise, a long walk, or an outing, voluntary work, social work, or buying a gift for someone, attend get together, social interactions and try smiling and reshaping your emotions and brighten your days. Practice meditation through prayer and worship of lord. Develop a sound mechanism for coping with depression at any point of your life. |
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| "Conscious handwriting is an unconscious drawing " with ones handwriting, the individual paints his own portrait as reflections of one's innate tendencies. The emotional - self can be analyzed through the analysis of one's handwriting denotes the degree of expressions or restraint, the baseline direction defines the mood, where as speed determines the rhythm of ones physical and mental activity. |
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| Anger is our worst enemy. Most of us are familiar with the couplet : " Those who are free from desires and anger and who have subdued their mind and realized themselves around such austere being lies the beautitude of the Lord. |
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| Enamoured by materialism and the consumerist culture of today, the modern man has turned so mechanized that there is practically no room for " Sentiments ", " Emotions " and dreams in his calcified existence. Changing social attitude rising utilitarianism and increasing social and business stress have almost benumbed the sensitivity, the innocence and the spontaneity of the human soul. As a result, an uneasy feeling of falling into the trap of a robotised existence often nags one, with an overpowering nostalgia for the innocent joys of ones lost childhood. Therefore streamline all your lucid characteristics of your personality, unfolding your self-awareness regarding your sensitivity. The missing vital link between your physical and spiritual self you should be in close intimacy with your sensitive self, experiencing the cosmic consciousness; with a vision in which the infinite is not only conceptualized but also realized. Your creative will defines its counterpart in others, experiencing its own universality and this intuition builds a road towards knowledge of the power which is itself a spark within you. You know the secret of getting into the silent places of your heart your inner being. Intuition comes to you naturally, bringing forth knowledge and truth instantly, in its stream. You should have a knack for aesthetic pursuits such as painting, music, art etc. |
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| Does disenchantment overpower you? Happiness and sadness are the most basic emotions. You feel happy when your expectation is fulfilled and sad or depressed when unfulfilled. Therefore you must have clarity about goals and expectations you make. You must really know about your presence of mind and intelligence, their capabilities, always try to go with the flow of life rather trying to swim upstream. You should tend to go within yourself and face truth. You achieve success in life without stress. Develop special quality of being elastic and accommodating in the upheavals of life. |
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| Develop your empathetic ability. Be an empathetic personality. Empathy is the identification of ones self with that of another. It obviously increases the effectiveness of a person as a perceiver and a communicator, since we look and listen to people whom we assume they are like us and agree with us. An empathetic person is sensitive to perceptiveness about emotional cues or opinions of others. It includes a persons capability to correctly estimate the general thinking or emotional reactions of the group of which he is a member. You must be a warn, understanding and an empathetic personality. Generously disposed to the emotional climate of others. You posses a sympathetic, sensitive and caring mental of disposition towards your outside world. Your humanitarian nature makes you an invaluable friend in need, catering to ones need for success. The compassion in you enables you to act rationally and rise to the occasion, making you a dependable personality. |
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| How happy are you? Happiness is a subjective term. Abraham Lincon maintained that " Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be. " In the long run, happiness is state of mind or an outlook of life that enables us to rise above the fluctuations of our moods our happiness depends on how we perceive and view our circumstances rather than what they actually are? Thus some people blessed with health and wealth may remain cynical because they haven't achieved their positive life goals. Whereas other people faced with serious illness and a limited income may never the less be happy because of a more sanquine and positive outlook." The secret of happiness lies in enjoying what one has" The Icelanders despite living on a windswept island, surrounded by glaciers and volcaness were discovered to be the happiest people alive in a poll of 18 nations. |
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| Most often, our expectation level determines our state of happiness. The more we expect and the more we compare ourselves to people who are materialized better off than we are, the more we expect and the more we compare ourselves to people who are the more frustrated and unhappy, we become. We tend to forget that there is no happiness in the perishable objects, as the real lasting peace lies in the absolute alone. The absolute must be sought and understood for a perpetual happiness. Happiness in fact lies in achieving a close match between our expectations and achievements. |
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| Happiness varies with ones stress more than any other single factor. Happy people tend to have high self esteem, satisfying relationships with others, be socially outgoing, doing regular work, exercise and sleep well. Happiness is achieved by giving it to others. Divine faith alone can heal. You can be an incorrigibly happy person and posses a sound philosophy and mechanism for coping with life. Your adaptability and intelligence shall make you see the brighter aspects of life. |
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| Most of us often give way the our inner feelings non-verbally. ( Non verbal self portrait ). Such communications more often than not, are consistent with our emotions and attitudes and in a subtle manner portray our emotional spectrum. Where words fail, a subtle gesture speaks volumes. It can reflect and unfold the intriguing art of negotiations. Non verbal clues can reveal whether the person you are talking to is lying, friendly, bored, defensive, eager or anxious. Gestures are often like words in a language. Be always confident, sincere, open hearted, truthful and have positive expressions. |
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| Develop your self-esteem and will power. A form of energy and a positive life force necessary to perfect you towards your goals and ambitions is the motivation level or the will to achieve. This amazing power within you invariably rewards you with everlasting success in life. It is the inner strength dormant within you that often transforms you and pushes you to take the first step in a new direction. Do you posses those necessary ingredients of patience, courage and determination of setting goals and striving to achieve them? Its all a question of motivation" In the contrary several energy snappers from stress to low self-esteem can virtually block and paralyze this magnetic force hidden within your inner self. Further sadness, fatigue, loss, anger, anxiety, disappointment and other negative emotions kill the drive within one to sustain ones will power and motivation level. Is your mental mechanism equipped with coping strategies to deal with such mental blocks. Posses an iron will and believe in yourself and your abilities, maintaining a " Couldn't careless " attitude towards the negative forces of your outside reality. |
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| Learn the Art of saying " No " Are you the kind who often ends up giving an affirmative response to others much against your wishes simply because you have not learnt the art of saying " No " ? |
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| You must always respect your identity, maintain your self respect and dignity. You know your wants and values and can express your identity through self assertion. Maintain reality of facts. |
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| One of the many revitalizing things that life offers us is sense of humor. Admidst the sea of humanity and civilization, each one of us has his own way of thinking and viewing life with his or her own unique perspective, which to a psychologist bears the indelible stamp of ones personality and emotional IQ. |
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| A keen sense of humor is a prerequisite for viewing predominantly the funny side of life, with an emphasis on enjoying the precious gift of life rather than taking it too seriously in a negative stream. |
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| Creative humor is rejuvenating and invigorating to the senses. A creative humorist invariably turns out to be an intellectual, highly individualistic and a high level thinker, with a capacity to laugh at ones own self and certainly not at the cost of others. |
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| Listening is an active pursuit. Its demanding hard work most of all, when someone is truly listening, it takes time away from the listeners most important focus himself. As listener, have you ever analyzed who do you like to listen to and who do you resist ? Whether in formal presentation, at a meeting or a party? And what are the turn off qualities you have encountered in speakers on such occasions? Interestingly, the qualities you look for and despise, reveal a subtle image of your own inner-self. |
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| Positive Thoughts |
An ocean of thoughts surrounds us all. In fact we are floating in that ocean; absorbing certain thoughts and repelling some in the thought-world. We may cease to be but our thoughts still exist in the atmosphere. These thoughts can transform the psyche of the person and can heal diseases through the principles of autosuggestion. |
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| Be naturally dispensed towards life giving thoughts and you will be blessed with love, health and happiness. Keep yourself busy and have great faith in life's possibilities. Do not have worries, doubts and anxieties. Do not have thoughts of jealousy, contempt and revenge. Grab the new opportunity that knocks at your door. |
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| Your perception of your self image. Speculations about human perception reveal that most of us often tend to perceive our self image which quite often does not synchronize with the perceptions held by others about ourselves. |
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| Traits About your Self Image - Authoritarian, adventurous, hardworking, nurturing, expert, fickle minded, expressive, sensitive, loyal, mischievous, obstinate, lazy selfish, sincere, versatile, miserly, confident, wise organized, materialistic, greedy, intolerant, patient, god fearing etc. Your personal relationships are faced with truth and transparency. Free and spontaneous interaction should exist between you and others. Project yourself to the world like a open book. You display clarity of purpose to achieve goals, which enhances your reputation and respect. Crystallize your ideas and realize them. |
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| Are you a victim of psychological fatigue? Most of our fatigue derives from our mental and emotional attitudes. Emotional factors like boredom resentment a feeling of not being appreciated, hurry, anxiety worry, a feeling of futility, such emotional factors tends to exhaust a person, making him susceptible to colds, reducing his output and causing him nervous headache. Metabolism tests show that the blood pressure of the body and consumption of oxygen actually decreases when people are bored. Such nervous tensions directly cause fatigue in the body. Worry, tenseness and emotional upsets are three of the biggest cause of fatigue, tensions by and large being a habit. |
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| Be well versed in the art of making each day of your life more exciting and rewarding. Develop skill to shape your mind and emotions to get more work done and have fun doing it. Get adept at avoiding unnecessary tension and saving your energies through your mental relaxation techniques. The art of turning routine tasks into stimulating opportunities is your wise mechanism to keep boredom and fatigue at bay. Be mentally enriched with a sound philosophy of life and make the most out of your life. Maintain a fair equilibrium of your mental energies. |
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| Analyze your mind babble. Beware of the things around you. Do you always watch the birds, the flowers the cute child at the corner, down the road, or the majestically rising sun while you treat softly on the dewy grass during your routine morning walk? May not, most of the time you happen to be only too engrossed in your mental monologue which goes on incessantly within your mind. You seem to state and restate opinions, rate yourself and other people and make comments on what's happening. Just as we consume too much of one kind of food, and not enough of others, the mind too eats too much of junk thought food. Does it spend a lot of time chewing gum? Do you overindulge in mental fat to the point where you are beginning to feel your mind gets heavy and slows down? Are the extra protein adding too many mental adding too many mental calories you can't burn off? Very few of us succeed in keeping a balanced mental diet. Our thoughts make or mar our psychological personality profile. If we wish to know about a man we have to ask what is his inner story. " Explore the vast landscapes and spectacles that exist within your mind and then notice the bond between your mental images and feelings. |
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| Are you an achiever? When at work, are you always or the go? Looking for new tasks and meeting your targets? Or do you find yourself making excuses and not being able to deliver? Chances are that you suffer from a lack of motivation. Motivation is the key to work. The answer to queries such as; " How can I get my people to work harder?" Often lies in awareness about their motivational levels. A motive force is a person's reason for doing something. Need for achievement or self - actualization concerns the desire to overcome obstacles, to exercise power and to strive to do something difficult, and to the best of one's ability. Self-actualization is the pinnacle of human and organization growth. |
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| Psychological research has examined several basic principles that help to explain how the behavior of all organisms including human beings is greatly affected by experience. Referred to these effects on behavior as learning. We learn form our direct or vicarious interaction with the world around us. There can be no doubt that learning is a key process in human behavior and appears to play an important role in virtually every activity we perform. From mastering complex skills to falling in love. Different people employ different modes of learning. Some tend to learn using an active experimentation approach while others feel more comfortable with their reflective observation style of learning. Such approaches, never the less reflect different personality types with their characteristic learning profiles. Make maximum use of concrete experience in your learning propositions. Be practical in your personal life. Taking life one day at a time, live in the present. Your interactions with your fellow beings be receptive and experience oriented. Be a hard core realist and believe in concrete realism. Be a reflective observer, making use of sensitive observation and perceptive understanding while you learn. Your intellectual and logical skills make you rational and future oriented in your approach to learning. Your approach to learning is based on practice experimentation and is application oriented. You have a questioning and curious mind which is keen to achieve and is active, decisive and responsive. |
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| How confident are you? Many of the thoughts, motives and memories affecting your behaviour are of unconscious kind and so we are not always aware of the basis of our own behavior Feeling of inadequacy resulting into a lack of self confidence are primary one of such disorders. |
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| Trust your own feelings and do not allow society standards to shape your feelings or actions to an excessive degree. Always be open and confident. Be sure of yourself and your activities and enjoy high level of stimulation. |
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| Feelings of anxiety, fear, tension or dread overpower most of you one time or another. If such feelings become very intense and persistent for long spells of time, they however can produce life long harmful effects. |
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| Be confident and well adjusted and self assured develop an art of skill to overcome anxiety. Fear etc. Self awareness has an immense value for all of us. " What lies behind us is and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us". Thus the larger the gap between an individuals self concept and reality, the poorer the persons psychological adjustment. The more one understands ones own self the better the choises one makes in many contexts, with better accuracy in prediction of one's reactions to many events and situations. |
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| Most of you are subject to guilt feelings and often tend to suffer from such feelings without even being aware of them. This affects our behaviour. Unrelieved guilt can be very stressful giving way to several disorders by weakening ones immune system. Therefore one must be very strong to manage ones guilt complex adequately. Accept your misdeeds, if any and set your standards by deciding that you are going to be the one in control of your life. |
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| The human aura is an invisible halo surrounding one's countenance. The presence of a brilliant aura has strange powers which some people with forceful characters carry around with them. This explains why we often feel the instinctive attraction or repulsion for one another and can often give no particular reasons for it. None the less, the attraction and repulsion decidedly speak of an intrinsic harmony and disharmony between each others auras. The invisible play of the aura explains why some people are a source of inspiration and personal power. They influence all those who come within the sphere of their influence; who possess magnetic and charismatic personalities. Aura a subtle, magnetic emanation generated by the etheric and other forces of the being. A skilled trained person in this art can detect and identify the aura of a particular person and his personality type. |
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| Are you a self directed individual? People all over the world, today are, pursuing an odyssey of freedom. Much of the dissatisfaction that occurs reflects peoples desire for greater freedom means facing up to the necessity of decision making in our lives, especially our choices that shape our destinies. The decisions to grow or actualize our potential often has to be made in spite of the dangers, of risk taking and therefore require the courage to affirm ourselves and our possibilities in spite of the risk involved. Today, the accent is on shaping ones environment to meet ones own needs and goals and to grow. This shift in values should not be seen as merely an increase in self- centeredness or self indulgence. The excesses of the " Me generation " as critics claim. Increase in self centeredness may prove to be an incidental feature of the transition phase from the old rules to a synthesis of the old and new. This new transition is based on the pursuit of self fulfillment and individual rights, with greater awareness and expressive of ones own needs and desires, along with the reluctance to suppress ones impulse - adhering to a new moral principle " I have a duty to myself. " |
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| Can you counteract stress? In modern era of hectic, harrowing and fast pace, a great majority of our civilization experience high stress at one time or another. Stress has become a major contributor, either directly or indirectly to coronary heart disease cancer, lung ailments, accidental injuries, cirrhosis of the liver and suicide. Stress seems to have become the price paid for being affluent and successful in some field. Twice as many as high income as low income people suffer from the tension of stress. Also the more educated people are the more likely to suffer great stress. |
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| Most often, stress consists largely of how we respond to events, not the events themselves, so that we being a lot of our stress on ourselves. Managing stress successfully involves more than relying on the automatic, symptom-reducing reactions to stress. It means taking charge directing and controlling our responses to stressors, there by modifying the overall stress. Modifying our environment and altering us in some way are the major techniques through which stress could be reduced to greater considerable extent. |
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| Building up to greater tolerance for stress and changing our pace at life could be of immense help in this direction. Always be a well adjusted person and adept at counteracting stress. Develop knack to manage stress successfully and enjoy better physical and emotional health choose to alter your life style or modifying your environment intelligently, you succeed in combating the day to day stressful situations wisely. |
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| Your Self Image and Ideal Self : Your self image is the way you see yourself. It is the self you think you are. It is made up of highly personal self images. Since it is so private, each one of us is an expert on our self image however realistic or unrealistic our perception may be. |
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| Our self image is made up of the many self perceptions we have acquired growing up, especially in our formative years. It is mostly influenced by the way we are seen and treated by significant others, especially by our parents. We tend to internalize what they think of us, their judgements and expectations, and regard ourselves accordingly. |
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| Our Ideal Self, on the other hand, is the self we would like to be, including our aspirations, moral ideals and values. Most of the times, these are governed by our identification with our parental demands and prohibitions during the formative years of childhood. With experience and maturity our aspirations, however, tend to increasingly represent self chosen goals and values and express in a healthy, adult way what we have come to expect of ourselves. |
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| Do you Accept Yourself? - There is high positive correlation between ones degree of self acceptance or self esteem with ones well being and social relationship. A high level of self acceptance helps one to live spontaneously and to be more accepting to others. Low self acceptance, on the other hand, makes one more guarded and more critical of others. One should develop self-acceptance and self confidence. Your sense of self worth helps you meet new people and confront new challengers. |
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| Know the dynamics of mind. The dynamics of mind intrigue most of us. So much so that much of the specialized vocabulary and terminology used to deal with various psychological phenomena have made their way into ordinary speech. When we speak of some ones ego or of being neurotic, or having a complex, we are using psycho dynamic language. |
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| Are you a self Actualized Person? - Psychologists, hold that some people tend to reach a healthier more optimal level of functioning than the average persons. These are self actualized people. Such people are relatively free from major psychological problems and have made the best possible use of their talents and strengths. Compared to the average persons, these people have certain characteristics in everyday realities, greater acceptance of themselves and others, high creativity and high resistance to conformity. Many people fail to actualize themselves because of the lack of supportive circumstances. However, countless people have been significantly creative despite deprived circumstances. Psychologist Abraham Maslow acknowledged that it is something of mystery why affluence releases some people for growth while stunting others. Hence a favorable environment alone is not enough to ensure growth. Individuals must also have an intense desire to grow, to offset the apathy and resistance to growth. |
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| All things considered, personal development tends to be a struggle between growth fostering and growth discouraging forces. Develop as a highly self - actualized individual who tends to live in present rather than in the guilt and regret of the past, or with over idealized goals and fears of the future tend to be inner directed, extroverted, and rational in your thoughts and behaviour. Be open to new experiences and trust your own experience. Have a fair ability for perceiving and experiencing yourself in relation to your environment. Begin to live authentically as you affirm your inherent human freedom and take responsibility for your lives. |
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| Are you Lonesome? Loneliness is common problem to most of you. When you have trouble forming or keeping close friendships, you tend to become lonely. Essentially loneliness is a subjective state reflecting the absence of satisfying relationships. It is not to be confused with solitude, which is more objective state denoting the absence of people. Thus you may feel lonely despite being surrounded by people if they don't feel close to you. Healthy avenues for creative pastimes and a positive attitude towards life enable you to keep loneliness at bay. Be fully adjusted with satisfying emotional and social relationships. Develop art of companionships in its proper perspective. |
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| Do you lead a God Centered Life? Emerson's a psychologist maintained years ago that there are unexplored chambers of the human mind which someday will be opened to release unrealized spiritual powers. There is another element present in the mind beyond the conscious and the sub conscious, it is the super conscious. Hence it is entirely likely that in you is blocked up all the power and efficiency you need. Evidence gained in thousands of eases indicates that the only sure way of relating it is to become expert in the faith mechanism. Law of psychokinetic's, the power of the human mind over conditions, circumstances, and material things. Indomitable mastery and control over adversity or opposition are exercised by the mind when the driving energy of faith is released. |
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| The scientific workability of faith in developing power and efficiency is a tested phenomenon. There is a basic power in the universe just as truly as the man who releases atomic energy. This power is so great that it burns out of ones mind every vestige of the disease destroying him. It is the law of faith. It is amazing what religious faith can do to cure tension, heal worried and anxious thoughts and give strength for the stresses and strains so prevalent today. Matters of religion, in fact should be approached in the experimental attitude of a real scientist. It is interesting to recall that years ago the famous scientist, Steinmetz said that the greatest scientists of future would be those who would chart and explain spiritual laws. |
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| It may sound queer, but you & I can generate more energy by means of faith and prayer than a dynamo can produce. It is the power by which we make transference to God, through which God, loving us, giving us strength and power. The art is to learn to have faith. When you have done so, you become a channel through which divine power flows. It flows through you. You then have all the strength you need to meet any situation involving you. And you are flooded with a healing sense of peace, as prayer and faith, like radium are in luminous and self generating form of energy. |
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| We must be adaptable to situations and not to be rigid and stereotype. Act with flexibility and be at ease and enjoy the fun. Accept change without much hassle. Be a master craftsman to rearrange your life and attitudes, with your resourceful intelligence and fun loving. Variety is the spice of life, as averse to the mundane and routinous. As novelty seeker, you have to be innovative versatile and know the art of moving along with the times. |
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| Are you Self Respecting? |
All too often, our achievement related behaviour and our intrinsically related behaviour may both be related to a much larger, more encompassing motive our need for self respect. People need to feel more worthwhile, competent and positive about themselves. Maintain a favorable view about yourself and act accordingly with high self esteem. Draw respect and admiration of people around you. |
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| Hassles are irritants that can range from minor annoyance to major pressures, problems or difficulties. They can occur few or many times. "Uplifts, on the other hand, make you feel good. They can be sources of peace, satisfaction or joy. Life's little pleasures can serve as buffers between you and stress. Pleasurable pastimes and sporty activities are rejuvenation. |
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| As human beings, we have unique psychological endowments, which distinguish us from the animal world. Endowments such as awareness, conscience, creative imagination and independent will which provide us ultimate human freedom the power to choose, to respond, to change etc. Each of these endowments and the synergy among them is necessary to create quality of life. Developing these is the core of personal leadership. Inner guidance system, strengthens and educates your conscience. Develop self awareness, conscience, independent will and creative imagination. |
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| Human empowerment entails the fulfillment of certain fundamental needs. If these basic needs aren't met, we feel empty; incomplete. We might try to fill the void by becoming complacent, temporarily satisfied with partial fulfillment. These vital areas of human fulfillment are imperative for our psychological growth and empowerment. Our physical, mental, psychological, and social needs affect our psyche tremendously. Any one of these needs, if unmet, reduces the quality of life and can become a black hole that devours our energy and attention. |
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| When all the needs are balanced with reality that we find the inner balance, peace and deep fulfillment and joy. Fulfill your physical, mental, social and spiritual needs equally without ignoring one of them. |
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| Your color preferences, the world nature is really a symphony of colors, expressing emanations of various light rays, whether it be delicate hues of dawn the vivid tints of sunset, the glory of the rainbow or the flaming grandeur of the blooming spring flowers. |
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| Occult science maintains that the sun emanates great vibratory rays or wavelengths of light turned as seven major colors, Violet, Indigo, Blue, Green, Yellow, Orange and Red. Each of these seven shades are divided into many sub hues. |
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| Color, in their mysterious splendour, have a subtle way of significance on your personality. Ethereal language of self expression. Your choice of co lour as reflected in your dress, your living room etc. reflects your lifestyle and your inner self. |
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| Red : The electrifying red, being the symbol of life denots strength and vitality, strong physical propensities, strong mind and will, warm & affectionate passion. Magnetic personality etc. |
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| Orange : Soul of Energy. Vital, energetic and active wisdom and reasoning power etc. |
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| Yellow: The golden shade of yellow denote soul of quality astral mental forces. Thoughts and mental concentrate presence of intellect, power to dispel fear and worry having tonic element. Stimulates both body and mind spiritual qualities. |
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| Green : Indicates individualism, regeneration, energy and supply. The green ray governs the individual growth such as growing seed. Success and prosperity. Multiplicity of Ideas, freedom from bondage, independence, new life. Curative effects on mind and nerves and refreshing peace. |
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| Blue : "Heavens own hue." Inspiration, spiritual color, fortune, artistic and harmonies nature and spiritual understanding. Self reliance and confidence. Loyal friends and sincere characters. |
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| Violet : Spiritual color, containing spirituality of blue with addition of red, vitality and power. Influence, transcendental idealism. |
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| Gray : Inborn love of convection, formality, lack of imagination, tendency to narrow mindedness. |
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| Black : Negation of color, dark deeds, hatred, discord, evil thoughts, darkness. |
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| Pink : Mystic color, it denotes a quiet, refined, modest type of character. Love of beauty and artistic surroundings. Lasting devotion. |
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| Silver : Volatile & lively, active, versatile, trades, professions, inconsistency, feebleness. |
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| Brown : Orderly management, development, industry, ambition and power. |
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| White : A neutral color, symbolizing purity, openness, truthfulness, serenity, sensitivity, wisdom, refinement and spirituality, Perfection, righteousness, truth etc. |
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| Are you a Dreamer? |
Each one of us is a complex and subtle blend of traits. This uniqueness referred as individual difference. The way one prefers to deal with things. Not surprisingly, differences in our choices, our fascinations and in born tendencies are but natural and play a vital role in our approach towards life. |
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| Knowing and doing what is important rather than responding to what's urgent is fundamental to putting first things first. Evaluate how much does urgency contract your life. Be more flexible and spontaneous not chained to plans and schedules. Put people ahead of schedules to have richer and more rewarding relationships. Lead a more balanced life. You tend to increase your ability to make and keep commitments to yourself and others as you build a high balance on your personal integrity account. Urgency addiction is a destructive behaviour that temporarily fills the void created by unmet needs. |
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| Your rationality quotient. Individuals vary in their cognitive perceptions and notions universally. Cognitive processes such as attention, perception, thoughts and beliefs may affect behaviour independently. Peoples actions are often shaped by their own interpretation and reaction to external events, rather than the events themselves. Our emotional and behavioural problems result from our distorted thoughts and reactions to external events rather than the events themselves. The emotional and behavioural reactions to events may be appropriate or inappropriate. A belief in irrational ideas and assumptions often leads to self defeating behaviour. |
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| Psychosomatic sickness. Often ones illness is not just a biological dysfunction, it also has psychological and social components. Some individuals exaggerate their normal bodily sensation, miner symptoms of illness, as major health problems. Catastrophizing more false belief about disease and fear of aging and death etc. Most have faulty hypothesis about their bodily sensations. |
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| Are you Well Adjusted? |
The psychological disorders of the adolescent and the youth are becoming increasingly common in the present era of competition and specialization. Four general classes of these disorders are |
| Disruptive behaviour, including impulsive aggressive, act out behaviour.
Habit disorders, the disruption of habits such as eating, sleeping etc.
Specific development disorders, of learning disabilities. |
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| These disorders may affect youth and adult adjustment in several ways. |
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| Discuss your personal problems with your friends. Meet with new people, develop self worth and confidence in ones abilities to tackle reality. Get well adjusted with society and make a delightful company with others. |
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| Most of us have a sense of something possible beyond the ordinary of moments when something about our lives, our family, our community, our world awaken us a sense of possibility. And we have glimpses of that most fundamental of possibilities that life could be extraordinary. It would be wonderful if we all lived and worked with this feeling in empowered high trust cultures. We empower circumstance and weakness of other people to control us. We put our energy into things over which we have no control. On the contrary if we focus our energy on our principle - centered leadership. Acting with integrity to create the environment in which we and others can develop character, competence and synergy, our circle of influence grows and we empower ourselves. Thus cultivating the serenity to accept the things we cannot change and mustering up courage to change the things we can, we acquire the wisdom to know the difference. |
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| Nurturing character and competence is the most high leverage thing we can do to create empowerment. Your words reveal the real you. Like fingerprints. Think before you talk. Just as a sculptor shapes his feelings or ideas by moulding clay which gives shape to the images he has in mind, we sculptor ideas, mould our thoughts representing our inner psyche into the use of words. When a word or a group of words recur frequently in ones conversation, it is one of the surest clues to who or what is uppermost on the persons mind. Pauses, inflections and frequent choice of certain words in our conversation act as fingerprints and often give us away, revealing larger meaning attitudes, intentions and behavioral patterns underlying our mental strategies. As Ben Johnson wrote more than 300 years ago. Language springs out of the innermost parts of us. No glass renders a mans likeness so true as his speech. |
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| Are you an "Internal" or an "External" Personality? |
Where's many factors contribute to our success or the lack of it, each of us has a way of looking at it, which is unique and reflects our cognitive style. We as individuals often develop a cognitive world round us. We tend to attribute the " Cause " of events to either a force which predominates them or to our own actions and capabilities. People have used various terms for the questions on term " Locus of Control " was suggested by Rotter, a psychologists which refers to the perceptions of contingencies between actions and outcomes, and to what extent an action produces an outcome. Those who have high perception and belief that their actions produce the outcomes are said to be internals with internal Locus of control and those who believe that the outcomes are not produced by their actions are said to be external with external locus of control. |
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| An internal who is more sure of the effort leading to favorable outcome and can rely on your understanding and predictability. High achievement motivation is an important characteristic of your personality. You posses inner directness being directed by your own internalized values rather than just conforming to outside pressures or norms. You also posses resistance to temptation, helpful nature, and low machiavellianism. You always help the real needy. You believe that working hard is more likely to lead to good performance and rewards. |
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| Your attitudes, social psychologists maintain that attitudes, lasting beliefs about and the evaluations of specific aspects of the social or physical world, play an important role in shaping many aspects of the human psyche. The specific attitudes held by an individual are more vital in behaviour shaping. The attitude you persistently hold affects your outlook towards life, and thus your behaviour. " Two men look through the prison bars, one sees the mud, the other the stars. Optimism and pessimism are thus a product of our attitude towards life and its multi furious facets. As they say, We become what we think. Hence, our thoughts and attitudes often shape our personalities. |
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| Be a good organizer, a meticulous planner, with emphasis on working in an orderly manner, endowed with tremendous energy and dynamism and clear mind force. Adventure in spirit fairly creative and prefer to take life as it comes. Your intuitive heart seems to rule all your decisions and solutions come clearer to you when you relate them to your sentiments. Think better and be realist, be convinced by facts rather than feelings. Practical to be sensitive to the subtleties of life. |
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| Be psychologically grown and adjusted to your environment. Psychological growth involves stepping into unfamiliar and potentially dangerous situations, thereby leaving us more vulnerable to hurt and disappointment; courage to be that is the courage to affirm ourselves and our possibilities inspite of the risk involved. Each time we put security before a challenge, we run the risk of becoming stagnant or succumbing to boredom, the breeding ground of so, many of today's scourges of drugs, violence etc. |
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| When we habitually suppress or deny the inherent growth tendency within us, we risk becoming maladaptive in obvious ways or in subtle ways. |
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| Are you a Successful Negotiator? |
Many of us are familiar with the principles and mechanism of negotiations but not how to negotiate effectively with living human beings. Today, more than ever, resources, are scarce, budgets are tight and people every where want their due. In such a scenario, people knowledge is more important than product knowledge. The psychology of interpersonal skills is a prerequisite for negotiating effectively with all types of people in all types of situations. Through it relationships are not only preserved, they are enhanced. Psychological research shows that " unconscious prejudice " occurs in 9 out of 10 people in their interpersonal dealings. |
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| Do you Celebrate Life? |
" Life is in living." All of us are granted the precious gift of living, yet very few seems to know the real art of living life to its full. Certain people have the knack of riding high on life and derive much fun out of the small joys offered by it which often pass unnoticed by others. To some, celebrating life's unique moments comes naturally and spontaneously and they don't believe in waiting for the big events of their lives to grant them happiness. |
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| If you have known your mind, then you can know the mind of others. If you know one lump of clay then you know the other too. The mind is universal. Your mind my mind, all these little minds are fragments of that universal mind, little waves in the ocean, and on account of this continuity, we can convey our thoughts directly to one another. You see what is happening all round us. The world is on of influence. Part of our energy is used up in the preservation of our own bodies, beyond that every particle of our energy is day and night being used in influencing others. Our bodies, our virtues, our intellect and our spirituality, all these are continuously influencing others; and so conversely, we are being influenced by them. This is going on all around us. |
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| Have you ever noticed the phenomenon that is called thought transference? A man here is thinking something and that thought is manifested in somebody else, in some other place, which means the minds are not isolated completely. Thought of one persons gets dissolved into ethereal vibrations which reach other persons mind and are resolved again into your own thoughts. Here is dissolution of thoughts and there is a resolution of thoughts. |
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| Personal magnetism personality of a man is what really impresses immensely. Personality of the man is of real gravity than his intellect his words etc. The man who influences, who throws his magic, as it were, upon his fellow beings, is a dynamo of power, and when that man is ready, he can do anything and everything he likes, that personality put upon anything will make it work. |
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| In the philosopher, it is a faint personality that influences, in the great Prophets it is tremendous. In the former we touch the intellect, in the latter we touch life. |
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| The secret of all education is to develop the real knowledge of strengthening personality and practice it. The finest is our spirit and the grossest is the body. We also know that the greatest power is lodged in the fine, not in the coarse. It is the fine that is really the seat of power a source of power. |
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| We can perceive thoughts only after they develop a great deal or after they become actions. We constantly complain that we have no control over our action , over our thoughts. But if we can get control over the fine movements, if we can get hold of thoughts at the root, before it has become thought, before it has become action, then it would be possible for us to control the whole. Develop method to analyze investigate, understand and finally grapple with those finer powers, the finer causes, then alone is it possible to have control over ourselves. The man who has control over his own mind assuredly will have control over every other mind. Know the secret of every mind. He who knows one lump of clay has known all the clay in the Universe. |
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| The need of the modern era is development of the Integrated Personality. A modern human being must integrate within himself all essence and qualities, powers and energies to fulfil his objectives and desires. The following are few of the main qualities and essence to be developed & Integrated to be an excellent personality. Qualities are physical health, mental health, emotional security, self balancing, efficiency of work, self control, quality & ways of doing work, activity, capacity to impress, confident responsibilities constructive nature, positive attitudes, scientific vision, self study nature, liberation from enigma, clarity, disclosure, self confidence, self image, creativity, decision power, great significant desires, balancing of all energies and qualities, purity, wisdom, innocence, beautifulness, intelligence and skills, satisfaction, existence, virtues of your soul, self guidance, compassion, love, collectiveness. Divine diplomacy, steadfastness, forgiving nature joyful nature, truthfulness, justice, witness state, self realization and many other essential qualities and essence etc. |
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| Why is the Integral Personality Development needed? |
There are many important questions, which make us think in depth. Such as why do we live life? In this regard we then think what we can do to our life and more broad vision we think what we can do for others and what contributions we can make to this world. Then we have desires to become something great and to achieve higher aims and goals. |
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| We think about our life's needs, first about our basic needs of our physical body and security needs, then our emotional desires and security, then our self respect and self esteem and then our higher self realisation and ultimately the union with the lord. Thus we put our best efforts to build our integral personality by developing all innate qualities, skills etc. And integrating our energies all physical, mental, causal and super casual to achieve our aims and goals of life to give meaning to itself. |
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| "The Lord" is the all perfect, all powerful, The real Personality of Godhead. Complete surrendering at The Lotus Feet of "The Lord", is the beginning of our Global Integral Personality Development. |
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The Divine Path of Ascent
Pyramid of Spiritual Ascent
(Nine Heavenly Kingdoms) |
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Abode of "The Lord" |
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9) Kingdom of "The Lord" : - Eternity
Integration of all Divine spirits & Divine sentient cosmic energy, transcends time, space, causation, qualities, matter energies and virtues etc. Divine consciousness, souls. |
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| 8) Virata / Virata chakra :- Kingdom of Gods / Ethereal / Element Divine spirit & sentient cosmic energy Integration of all Universal Consciousness, time, space & causation. |
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| 7) Limbic Area / Sahasrara Chakra :- Lataif Haqqiya / Element sentient cosmic energy / petals - 1000 / rays 360, Day - Monday / stone - pearl / planet - pluto moon / co lour - All interaged colors& wihite. |
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| 6) Optic Chiasma / Angya Chakra :- Lataif Khatiya / Element - Light / petals - 2 / Rays - 64 Day - Sunday / Stone - Diamond / Planet - Sun Neptune / Colour - White Snow |
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| 5) Cervical plexus / Vishuddhi Chakra :- Lataif Ruhiya / Element - Ether, Sky / Petals - 16 / Rays - 72 Day - Saturday / Stone - sapphire / Planet - Saturn / Colour - Blue |
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| 4) Heart Cardiac Plexus / Anahata Chakra :- Lataif Sirriya / Element - Air / Petal - 12 / Rays - 54 Day - Friday / Stone- Ruby / Planet - Venus / Colour - Violet, Purple. |
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| 3) Solar Plexus / Monipura Chakra :- Lataif Qualbiya / Element - Water / Petal - 10/ Rays - 62 Day - Thursday / Stone - Emerald / Planet - Jupiter / Colour - Green |
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| 2) Mesenteric Plexus / Swadisthana Chakra :- Lataif Nafsiya ./ Element - fire/ Petals - 6/ Rays - 52 Day - Wednesday / Stone - Emetheist / Planet - Mercury / Colour - Yellow |
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| 1) Pelvic Plexus / Mooladhara Chakra :-Lataif Qalabiya / Element – Earth/ Petal- 4/ Rays- 56 Day – Tuesday/ Stone – Coral / Planet - Mars/ Colour - Blood, Red. |
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